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  • Writer's pictureClaire Verney

How to Complete Safety Planning with a Family Living with Domestic Abuse

For those families living in a home where domestic abuse is present, it is important that a safety plan is in place. This post is designed to take social workers through the steps of completing safety planning with families.

The importance of completing safety planning with families living with domestic abuse

The importance of safety planning

It is important that safety planning is carried out with all families that are living with domestic abuse which should have the children's safety and protection as the primary concern. Where social workers are already working with a family that are remaining together, both the victim and the perpetrator should be included in the planning.

The following is a step by step guide to completing safety planning work with a family when domestic abuse is a concern. Please visit our post on safety planning and risk management for coercive control if that is a particular concern.

  1. Identify the risk concerns - The risk concerns need to be clearly identified and prioritised so that their is no confusion with the parents about what the issues are and which are the most important. It may be necessary to have an expert domestic abuse risk assessment completed that will set out the risks and make recommendations as how to manage those risks which can be incorporated into the plan.

  2. Have a shared understanding amongst professionals - It is vital that all key professionals involved in the case understand the risk concerns and support the safety plan. This will ensure that there are no mixed messages given to the parents about the risks and the importance of the safety plan.

  3. Agree the actions required to address the concerns- A clear indication must be given to the parents about what is required of them to address the risk concerns. These indicators must be specific and measurable spelling out what they must do, how they can do that and by when (ie show a willingness to make changes by attending a perpetrator programme every week for 26 weeks).

  4. Ensure both parents understand the risk concerns - Both parents need to be clear about what the risks are and  what their responsibilities are. Parents may blame each other or disagree about who poses the main risk this needs to be resolved at an early stage, in particular, it must be clear which parent is the primary protector of the children when risks occur.

  5. Involve suitable others to provide support - It is important to involve others (usually family members from both sides) who can give practical and moral support to the family as well as monitor safety. The supporters should be risk aware and concerned for the best interests of the children. The supporters should be invited to attend certain sessions and be made aware of the risk concerns and what their involvement in the safety plan will be (ie provide time out space).

  6. Identify triggers and agree a safety word - Drawing on previous incidents identify triggers to conflict escalation (a risk assessment should include these details). Examine the cause of conflict with the parents (analysing the worst incident of abuse can be helpful) and help them to recognise when anger is escalating and how they can exit the situation in future. The parents should choose a safety word and agree how to use it.

  7. Develop risk scenarios and alternative strategies - Work with the parents to devise scenarios around their triggers and risky situations. The parents should be actively participating in scenarios that are real and cover the main risk concerns, they can then devise strategies to prevent conflict, using the safety word and safety rules. With the children's safety and protection the primary concern, they need to agree exits in the scenarios and clarify who they can phone or go to in these situations. Ask the parents to draw a map of their home and identify where the children are and how the children can be protected. Read our post on what a safety plan should consist of.

  8. Write up and sign the safety plan - Write up the safety plan by the final session so that the parents can sign this. The plan should be clear and concise with contact details of relevant supporters and professionals with their responsibilities. Bring up the possibility of separation, if there is further violence and one of the parents fails to follow the plan, the other parent needs a personal plan to escape. As fleeing a partner can bring further risk and upheaval to the children encourage the parents to consider agreeing to separate if this is needed.

Safety Rules

It is important for steps 6-8 that safety rules are clear and well known to the parents who agree to follow them as part of the safety plan. Please visit our post on safety rules for parents for these.


Safety planning and safety rules are available on infographics, you can print these yourself from our resources page or contact us to receive copies.

Business as usual

DV-ACT experts are continuing to work throughout the Coronavirus pandemic as usual and are available to discuss cases and complete assessments and treatment programmes on both victims and perpetrators. Visit our post how-are-dv-act-completing-assessments-during-coronavirus-crisis to find out how we are currently working.


Helplines are available for both perpetrators and victims of domestic abuse as well as for children, parents struggling with abuse from children and elder abuse:

National Domestic Violence Helpline 24/70808 2000 247

Womens Aid online help for female victims (Monday to Friday 10:00am - 4:00pm, Saturday and Sunday 10:00am-12:00pm) -

The Men’s Advice Line, for male domestic abuse survivors0808 801 0327

Mens advice online chat for male victims (Wednesday, Thursday and Friday – 10 – 11am and 3 – 4pm) -

Childline - 0800 1111

Childline online service for children or young people experiencing domestic abuse (9am-midnight) -

NSPCC helpline (Monday to Friday 8am – 10pm or 9am – 6pm at the weekends) - 0808 800 5000 Contact counsellors 24 hours a day by email or online reporting form

Respect helpline for perpetrators of domestic abuse - 0808 8024040

Webchat - Wednesday, Thursday and Friday – 10 – 11am and 3 – 4pm

Family Lives, a confidential helpline service for families in England and Wales (9am – 9pm, Monday to Friday and 10am – 3pm Saturday and Sunday) for emotional support, information, advice and guidance on any aspect of parenting and family life - 0808 800 2222

You can also email for support, advice and information at

Young Minds Parents Helpline (Monday to Friday 9.30am – 4pm) - 0808 802 5544 

Action on Elder Abuse helpline: 0808 808 8141

The Mix, free information and support for under 25s in the UK – 0808 808 4994

National LGBT+ Domestic Abuse Helpline – 0800 999 5428

Samaritans (24/7 service) – 116 123 Call the UK police non-emergency number, 101, if you need support or advice from the police and it's not an emergency

999 silent solution - In an emergency 999 should always be called if the caller is unable to speak they need to press 55, but there is a procedure that needs to be followed and the limitations of this (ie that the police cannot track the caller when a mobile is used) need to be made clear -

About us

DV-ACT are a team of domestic abuse experts, available throughout the UK, who provide assessments, consultancy and training to local authorities and the family courts. Our experts have decades of experience working directly with domestic abuse perpetrators and victims, as specialist assessors and as expert witnesses in the family courts.

​DV-ACT was formed with the aim of using our expertise to help safeguard children from abuse, this is at the heart of everything that we do. Read our full story here.



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